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Dialogue with the “Inner Child” An important therapeutic exercise
Sometimes it is mentally healing to cultivate a dialogue with the “Inner Child”, i.e. a dialogue between our present-me and our childhood-me. This dialogue is particularly important if you have significant experiences in childhoodand has suppressed the feelings caused by it. (e.g. in case of blatant loss experiences, deep disappointments, physical or mental injuries, strokes of fate and overburdening,...)
Repressed feelings can break out uncontrolled in the present and can then trigger aggression, inferiority, and depression; In addition, they can put a great strain on our communication behaviour and thus our human relationships.
Dialogue with the “inner child” can lead us to learn to allow and understand feelings and expressions of emotions that we have so far rejected and fought inwardly and which we found to be confusing and burdensome. This will allow us to assign these feelings to the repressed and forgotten events of our childhood or youth.
If we feel an old grief or anger and understand the causes of its origin, we will be able to allow these feelings – and thus integrate our past into our present consciousness. This calms down these feelings in us, no longer breaks out uncontrollably, and we find peace with our past and thus peace in ourselves. This allows us to discover and unfold the positive energies from our childhood.
How does this “dialogue with the inner child” happen?
We are looking for a comfortable seat where we can lean on with our back and lay both hands on the belly; Because there our childhood is emotionally stored. We breathe out relaxed and patiently wait for our chest to breathe again. With every exhalation, we make our body harder and more relaxed. All muscles in the arms and legs and throughout the body can relax and relax.
The hands on the belly create a shelter. In this we try to perceive our childhood self stored there. Our protective hands are an invitation to the “inner child” in us to open up, dare to be there and show oneself. The two hands radiate compassion, love and respect for the “inner child”.
Then we speak with the following or similar words to our “inner child” as to a person who lives in our body:
“Small(r) N. (your own first name!), you may be there in me. I try to feel you inside me and perceive your feelings.” Leave time to feel the “inner child”, i.e. to perceive the feelings we suppressed as children, but which are stored in our body – that is, in our unconscious. “Small N., you are allowed to spread your feelings all over my body. I feel with you whether it is sorrow or fear, longing or despair, anger or guilt,... If there are tears, I will give birth to your unweeted tears. I feel with you; I am fully connected to you and give space to all your feelings in my body – even if they may flood me completely. I want to see what you may have given in sacrifice, sometimes unnoticed or vain love, what you have experienced in loneliness, overwhelming expectations (on the part of your parents?), grief, pain, despair,... My body is supposed to be the medium through which your repressed emotional world can finally come into the world.” After some time: “Small person N., look, I've become an adult man/wife and have already done a lot in my life:...” (Telling of vocational training and professional practice, possibly of family founding and care for children, volunteering,...) “Now I also want to make sure that you are well within me. That’s why in the near future I will keep in touch with you and take part in your feelings. And then, as an adult, with my loving hands, I will protect and comfort you in me. You're with me forever. I take you as a permanent part of my life. And now we want to live together in today, to see the problems and the beauty of our time and to master today’s present courageously and lovingly.”
After some time, you stretch your arms and legs, feel your own breath attentively, feel the armchair on which you sit, and the globe on which the house stands, senses the sky and the universe above you, stands up and senses the size and strength of your own body and remembers what date we have today and what one still thinks to do today.
With what problems is the “dialogue with the inner child” particularly important?
— If one had lost a parent or other important relative in childhood. — When one was often left alone or not perceived in childhood. — When you have been humiliated, beaten or sexually abused as a child. — When a child suffers from the constant strife or addiction of a parent. — If you always wanted to help a suffering parent and sacrificed your own childhood. — If you always had to obey and your own will and your own thinking were extremely suppressed. ...
The “dialogue with our inner child” does not solve all our psychological problems:
For example, problems caused by “systemic stresses” need a different treatment >>>
Manfred Hanglberger (www.hanglberger-manfred.de)
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