Work on Genealogical Tree

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Therapeutic Personal Responsibility

What everyone can do for his own mental health:
"Work on Genealogical Tree"

First of all, a quotation from the Bible:

"I pursue the guilt of the fathers to the sons, to the third and fourth generation"
(From Decalogue in Ex 20:5b and Dt 5:6-21)

Comment

With this very old text, which is in the complete version of the "Ten Commandments" in the Old Testament, it must be remembered that at that time people were convinced in their faith that all bad strokes of fate such as serious illnesses, accidents, distressing family conflicts, early death, disabilities, stillbirths, etc. were punishments from God.

Jesus had abolished this understanding of God's activity in the world about 2000 years ago; but in the Church this thinking soon reasserted itself.

Even though most people today no longer regard the blows of fate that span generations in a family as a curse from God, it is amazing that people in Israel more than 2,500 years ago observed that some problems ran through several generations.

It is an essential goal of modern family therapy, also known as "systemic therapy", to uncover and understand this "system" of the psychic network, which runs through several generations, and to stop its destructive effects.

Unfortunately, this cross-generational thinking is by no means common in all forms of therapy.

On the other hand, important insights from this can also be used by laypeople without psychological and therapeutic qualification for one's own mental health and for one's own family and relatives.

My recommendation for this: "Work on Genealogical Tree"

The aim is to track down and solve the unconscious mental homework that lies hidden in a network of three to four generations.

First of all, the ancestral gallery of the last three generations with all associated siblings (also with any half-siblings and step-siblings! And above all, do not forget infants who died young!) with names, dates of birth, wedding and death. (a graphic proposal: >>> )

The dates of the great-grandparents (without siblings) are also often significant, especially if the children in a generation were not brought up by the parents but by the grandparents.

It is then necessary to check

1. Subsequently, check which people may not have been said goodbye to or mourned after their deaths,
and who may therefore trigger solidarity in descendants in the form of an unconscious death tendency.

2. which people have been devalued, despised, excluded, treated unfairly or forgotten.
Perhaps one can recognize stressful circumstances in his childhood and further life history in order to more easily show compassion and respect for them when they had become difficult people?

3. The following events often have a strong impact on future generations:

· Father in war? killed? missing?

· Parent who died early?

· Overpowering grandparents interfered in the family?

· Siblings who died early?

· As a child played "surrogate parents" for weak parents?

· Solidarity with one parent against the other?

· As a child or grandchild in unconscious solidarity with the deceased first wife (or husband) of the father or grandfather (or mother or grandmother)?

· Overstrained favorite child or injured shadow child?

· Marriage was not one’s own decision?

· Deceased children?

· Deceased spouses?

· Suicide, murder, abortion, sexual abuse, ... with ancestors?

· Economic or political behavior that triggers feelings of guilt?

· Serious illnesses, chronic illnesses, disabilities?

· Mental illness, addictive behavior?

· Serious accidents?

· ….…

4. Are there any odd repetitions of fate or problematic character similarities to be observed?
These suggest an unconscious solidarity with ancestors who could not be adequately mourned or who are devalued.

Resolving dangerous and burdensome effects from ancestral life

=> The most important thing: reducing blame!
As long as one looks for culprits and burdens and condemns others by assigning blame, there is no solution of problems, but increases them boundlessly! (Cf. Jesus: "Do not judge!")

=> Compassion for the fate of burdened ancestors
(perhaps write a small resume, example >>)

=> Respect for their destiny
(bowing inwardly before them and entrusting them to God's mercy; praying for them means letting them go).

=> Ask them for their blessing for the living
("look upon me with love and accompany my path with your blessing")

=> When compassion is difficult: entrust them to the justice and mercy of God,
but have respect for their fate!

=> Detailed description of the solutions in the book in German by Manfred Hanglberger:
"Birth of the EGO - How the soul comes into the world" >>>
Especially in the chapters:
> Relief from emotional stress,
> Relief of the child's soul by the parents.

By Manfred Hanglberger (www.hanglberger-manfred.de )

Translation: Ingeborg Schmutte

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Further analyzes and assistance for relationship problems in the German-language books by Manfred Hanglberger:
>> „Wenn Liebe Leiden schafft“
>> „Die Geburt des ICH – Wie die Seele zur Welt kommt“
>> „Tränen, die heilen – Neue Wege der Trauerarbeit!
>> „Der sinnvolle Umgang mit Schuldgefühlen“ (Buch-Info)

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>> Familienpastoral (Verzeichnis)
>> The soul of a child

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