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Dismantling systemic loads
What are “systemic loads”? These are burdens that we have received through our emotional attachment to the “system of our ancestors”, especially with a painful fate of our parents and grandparents (rarely also with other ancestors). Through this psychic connection with the ancestors, we can unconsciously accept repressed feelings of persons from kinship. Since we cannot assign these feelings to events in our own biography, they are very confusing and burdensome.
In order to free oneself from such mental stresses, it is necessary to distinguish oneself from the parents or from a close relative with whom one has become identified by unconscious love. This is achieved on the one hand by various methods of self-perception of a physical and mental nature, such as “autogenic training” and similar, and on the other hand by “attentively looking” at the life with which one is identified.
This can mean, for example, dealing with his life history, in other words, to obtain inquiries about his childhood, about his youth, about health, social and economic circumstances, and the fates of his life. But not only the external data are important, but also the emotions that may have been alive on these stages of life. The conscious compassion with this person disconnect identification. Compassion creates the distinction of „me and you“, thus preventing the unconscious or conscious temptation to want to make up for the unlived life of the other and to want to solve his unresolved conflicts of life on his behalf. But the distinction from the ancestors alone does not lead to the birth of one’s own self. The second fundamental precondition for this is to include the person with whom you are identified: To the world, to the system of kinship and to oneself inwardly, i.e. to respect them in their existence and belonging to them. This is done by giving it an adequately good space within itself, not a place of contempt or forgetting, but also no place of dominion over my feelings and my will.
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For systemic stresses, so if we are burdened by unconsciously assumed feelings of parents or other ancestors, the following can be helpful:
1. At first it is important to recognize with whom we are entangled, so whose feelings we have unconsciously adopted >>>
2. Then two sentences are decisive: (1) N. (relationship or name), I feel with you (2) N., I respect you with your fate One cannot break away from the ancestors and their fate. One cannot and must not push the ancestors and their fate away and displace them. But compassion alone overwhelms us and burdens us pointlessly. That is why both are important: Compassion and respect!
3. If the person with whom one is mentally connected has already passed away, a third sentence is important: (3) N., look at me with love and accompany my way of life with your blessing.
Manfred Hanglberger (www.hanglberger-manfred.de)
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