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Possible causes
why men disdain women As a family therapist, one looks for conscious
and unconscious causes of
men's contempt for women
in marital conflicts and tries to resolve them.. Because of the traditional subordination of
women in historical development Because men are used to seeing women as
subordinate in a tradition
that goes back thousands of years. When women no longer accept this subordination
and rebel, some men despise
them. This contempt for women is usually developed by "father's sons" who, according to family
therapy findings, have felt more connected to their father than to their mother since childhood and usually adopt their father's
value system and unconscious
repressions. Because of social and religious devaluation of the emotional world When the man with his rational nature has to calm down the emotional woman. Because men, in the social and
ecclesiastical tradition
of contempt for feelings, despise
women with their emotionality.
Christianity in particular,
by adopting the evaluation
of emotions in Greek philosophy, has placed reason and will above emotions
for 2000 years, and by devaluing
the emotional world, has also devalued women. Since the church was the formative force
in culture and society for many centuries
in the history of Europe, this had
corresponding exclusionary
effects on women. Contempt for women by mothers' sons When as
a son you were in a helping role
for the mother and because
the mother seemed needy, you subconsciously
looked down on the mother
and then look down on all
women. Perhaps the mother was in need of help because - she was
hurt by her father in childhood, - her father
died at an early age, - the dominant
father oppressed the mother and the son showed solidarity with her,
- as a mother's support, one is loyal to the mother and in solidarity with
the mother, When the mother's longing becomes a mother's projection, which is then disappointed Because as
a son you were possessed by your mother and now you spend your
whole life in search of a
real mother - and you keep getting
disappointed and then you go in search of a new mother in the form of another woman. The same
problematic behavior may arise if
the mother was lost at an early
age or was unavailable to
the child for other reasons. When the early loss of the mother triggers distrust and contempt for women Because as
a son you lost your mother in infancy and therefore develop a distrust of the woman
who might leave you again. Because as
a boy in childhood you were the victim of a negative projection of the mother Because one had grown up in the shadow of one's mother's favorite child and because of this disadvantage one first despised
the mother and later all women. Because as
a boy you were the
favorite child of your grandmother, who competed with her daughter-in-law Because as
a favorite child of grandma,
one despises her daughter-in-law, that is, one's
own mother, and then later projects the longing for grandma onto unattainable women and the
contempt for the mother onto one's own
wife. If the relationship of the parents to each other had
a strong gradient, and as
a son you change from mother solidarity to father solidarity When, as
a son, in a pronounced helper role for the mother, in solidarity with her, one despises the father and therefore unconsciously becomes more and
more like the father and then
despises the woman in unconscious
solidarity with him. Because the woman physically withdraws from the
man The woman is despised by the man because she withdraws
from him physically, - because she
was hurt by her father in childhood and projects this onto her husband, - because she
was sexually abused by a man in childhood
and therefore despises
men, - because she
was sexually abused by a man in her childhood and therefore cannot allow any - because she
has inherited similar emotional burdens or emotional blocks from her mother - because after menopause or due
to certain diseases, a woman's hormone levels change and Unless both
spouses consciously perceive and work on these problems and their causes, there is usually no way to change the existing contempt into respect. Possible causes why
women disdain men >>> Man-Woman Relationship >>> To overcome
contempt, see the Healing Rites for Emotional Wounds >>> This compilation does not claim to be complete! Manfred Hanglberger (www.hanglberger-manfred.de) Translation: Ingeborg Schmutte |
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Important
Therapeutic Exercises, Analyses and Healing Rites >>> Partner problems: Understand
the background and find solutions >>> The temporal Splitting of
Projections in a Partnership >>> Observations and Reflections
on the Breakup of long-term Marriages >>> |
