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Healing exercise for psychological
stress from childhood fate (1) "Accepting
life from parents and
renounce what is missing" If
you have received too little care, attention and gifts from your parents. (Too
little closeness, attention and care causes unsatisfied mental hunger) Healing rite: Withdraw the hands of desire and practice renunciation: If one has not experienced
enough care, attention and love. The following "rite of renunciation" consists of six
elements: 1. Life assumption from the parents 2. Practice renunciation 3. Life assumption from "mother nature” (for believing people also from God as source of
life) 4. Attachment to the big community of nature 5. Discovery and affirmation of one’s own
originality 6. Responsibility towards the community of nature: Finding one's own vocation and place in the world If
possible, you put your own chair in such a way that the back points to a
window as large as possible, through which you can look into nature. In
front of this chair, two other chairs are positioned on which in your
imagination the parents sit in such a way that they are facing you. While
sitting on your own chair, you can find the appropriate distance for the
parents' chairs. If you want, you can use symbols for the parents or attach
photos of them to the chairs to make it easier to be aware of their presence
and thus to facilitate contact with them. If the
parents' behavior was very different, it is necessary to make this rite once
for the mother and once for the father. Sometimes it is only necessary to do
the rite for the parent who is problematic. 1. Life assumption from the parents Sitting on one's own chair, one holds both hands open towards one's
parents and receives life itself and everything that one has received from
them what is necessary, pleasant and valuable: "Dear parents (dear father, dear mother), life
has flowed to me from you, without you and without your relationship to one
another I would not exist. I consciously accept my body and my life as a whole
from you! And all that you have given me in the course of my
childhood and youth: in food and clothing, in housing and care of a mental
and material way, everything you have given me, all that was necessary for me
to grow up and become an independent person, I now consciously accept from
you.“ 2. Practice renunciation Then I
feel in what respect my hands have been left empty in the relationship with
my parents: What
have I been lacking in care, in attention and sympathy, in emotional and
material support, in respect and appreciation? I specifically
name my old disappointments and possible injustices that I have felt in
comparison to my siblings. “I hereby declare that I renounce all that I have
not received from you and leave the old disappointments in the past. But what I have received from you, I now consciously
take up in myself and respect it as part of my life and make something
meaningful and valuable out of it - also to your honor". With
these words I slowly pull both outstretched hands back and put one hand on my
belly and the other on my chest, as if I was taking something into my body. If you
know a lot about a problematic and painful childhood of your parents, you can
possibly add: "I see today that you yourself did not receive
what I expected and missed from you. That it was not available to you at
all.” Possibly
or: “I see today that you were so busy and blocked with
your burdens (from your childhood?) that you did not perceive me properly
(that I was more burden to you than joy?).” 3. Life assumption from "Mother Nature (for believing people also from God as source of
life) 4. And connected with the great community of nature Then
you turn your chair around and look out through the window into nature. If
the window does not offer a view into the nature, one imagines a wide and
beautiful landscape. Later you look for a real natural landscape and complete
this last part of the exercise outdoors inwardly once again. “I am not only a child of my parents. The great
mother nature brought forth all life and nourishes it and gives it air to
breathe. I know myself connected and part of the great
community of Mother Earth.” Possible formulation for religious people: „I am not only a child of my parents. I am wanted
and affirmed by the source of all life and by the source of all
life-affirming forces, which many people call "God". "God" now looks at me with love and
benevolence. By him I am fully and unconditionally accepted and affirmed. He
says YES to my existence and gives me the consciousness of my absolute
dignity and right to exist - regardless of how other people see and judge me,
regardless of what I mean to my parents. "God" has made my existence possible through
the long development of the universe and through the long development of life
on this earth. Through the great "Mother Nature", who
brought forth the diversity of all living beings, he has also given me my
life. So I know that I am connected and part of the great
community of life on our earth. I am a "child of God" and a
"child of Mother Earth" and may develop mentally and spiritually
and grow up in every respect: to shape my life independently and responsibly
- in connection with the great community of all life.“ 5. Discovery and affirmation of one´s own
originality „I am a child of Mother Earth and know about my
originality and uniqueness. I am a miracle of nature: No one knows me completely
and comprehensively. I myself have been on the road all my life to
understand myself better and better and to recognize and develop my physical,
mental and spiritual powers and possibilities. In my originality I am allowed to be different from
every other person, different from my parents too. Therefore my parents do
not always need to understand me. My raison d'être and my well-being do not depend on
my parents' thinking, expectations and decisions. But I, too, do not always need to understand my
parents - nevertheless I respect them as mediators of life for myself and
assume my life from them and give them a place in my heart.” 6. Responsibility towards the community of nature: Finding one's own vocation and place in the world „Dear parents, you are behind me, through you life
has flowed to me. What I have received from you may continue to flow forward
through me (into my partnership, into my family) to other people and for the
good and blessing of the great community of life on earth with people,
animals, plants, natural elements, ... I want (I have?) to find my place in this community
of life on earth (Or: „I
have found my place in this community of life on earth ...”) and I want to unfold my originality and serve the
life on this earth.“ I close
my eyes, exhale deeply a few times and let the breath flow deep into me again
and feel once again my connection to the great community of life on earth.
Then I stretch my arms and legs and stand up. Manfred
Hanglberger (www.hanglberger-manfred.de) Link to share: https://hanglberger-manfred.de/en-verzicht-gegenueber-eltern.htm
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The soul of a child Accepting life from
parents and protect yourself Accepting life from parents and
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